“Love me until I’m me again.” ~ Raeanna Comstock of Soulful Cravings
Love me until I’m lovable again.
We all tend to not be lovable at times. We have our challenges, stresses and fears to deal with during our life. At those times, we may not be the best version of ourselves. Others may find us different or changed, but essentially we are still the same. We are going through a time of intense transformation. We are going to make it through to become a better version of ourselves, as long as we are aware of what is happening to us and work to do something about it. It’s what life is all about ~ Learning and Growing. Some times we won’t recognize it immediately, sometimes we will, but it is important to remember our emotions and reactions are a clue to what needs to be worked on and healed.
Those who are closest to us may or may not even notice what we are going through, yet it is important for each of us to know everyone has ups and downs in life, when we are not exactly being the positive, loving, light-filled being we actually are at our core. If others are not noticing your troubles, or becoming upset with you, they may only be seeing themselves in you and reacting negatively. Remember, we mirror each other, and our closest relationships provide the biggest mirrors. What we dislike in others may very well be something within ourselves we need to address, as it hits a nerve, which is why we may become defensive, angry or frustrated. Either way, it’s important to be aware to recognize and accept that everyone experiences good times and challenging times. These times may last a short time, or they may last longer, perhaps for months. The person dealing with a challenge also may not even be aware of it, as they are hiding it so well from others, they are also hiding it from themselves. Continue to support and love them anyway, as it is at these times, when we all need love the most. You saw the good within them at one time, and seeing their shadow self is an excellent clue they are having issues with something within themselves. Remember the good, positive and loving qualities you do love in that person to help support and love them through their troubling times. Know that most anything else is only temporary, detaching from the emotional distress to keep being patient and compassionate.
I recently had this situation where I seemingly “changed” and others didn’t understand me or realize I was having a very tough time. I was carrying the world on my shoulders, and that’s a heavy weight to bear. I didn’t want anyone to be affected by my stress and worry, so I kept it to myself. Well, the more I kept it to myself, the worse it became, and I was keeping more and more to myself and not sharing or being open and loving. I had never experienced something like it in my life before and was completely overwhelmed. A new learning experience had presented itself. However, before I was fully conscious of this issues within me, it caused a divide in a relationship I never intended to happen. I re-learned more profoundly, we all need to share our woes, stresses, fears and anxieties. We are all human and we all have them. We all at times end up having the ego lead us, versus allowing our souls to lead us. When the ego shows up as the lead, it creates more havoc in our difficulties, creating even more issues. The ego is about fear and lack, where the soul is about abundance and Love. Over the past couple of months I have done much healing work on myself through Reiki, meditation and more. I am learning, growing and having an intense time of transformation, evolving to a better version of myself. I am releasing the worry, stress, fear and anxiety I was carrying, coming back into my true core of trust and faith in All through Love & Light.
Being supportive of someone who is experiencing a very trying time entails patience, understanding and compassion. It is about showing even more kindness to help the other person find their way back to themselves. It includes realizing what that person is dealing with has more to do with them, than you. In this way, we can detach from our reactions, and simply send Love energy from our hearts and souls. Being supportive may include letting the person know you see a change in them and asking if they are okay or would like to talk about, or whether they need time to deal with it alone. But always let them know you love them and will be there when they need it. Being aware of others in this manner and working through them together can have profound healing affects on both you and the other person, whether you are the one having a difficult time or with someone who is dealing with difficult challenges. It allows growth in each person and growth in the relationship, helping each person understand better how to support each other the next time around. Because there are always more ups and downs in our lives.
Remember, others in your life will experience difficult times, some more difficult than others, some lasting longer than others. We all experience hard situations in life as lessons to grow and transform, while gaining wisdom to apply to new circumstances. Continue to love those in your life to support them through both the good times and the challenging ones. We all need to be loved until we are lovable again. Those who support you through extremely difficult emotional or mental times by continuing to love you through it are the ones who completely accept you unconditionally. They are the ones who still see your beauty and loving light. They are the ones who are understanding and compassionate. They are the ones who will love you until you are you again.
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Thank you, Jeffrey! I’m delighted you enjoyed it.
Enjoyed it very much. We all have to deal with life as it comes up and we are not always fully in tune with the Divine. Sharing and re-blogging with <3
I’m honored you enjoyed it Gerry! Thank you so much…I completely agree! Sometimes we can steer our lives and sometimes our lives steer us!
I was reading that as if i wrote it myself, trying not to burden others they assumed i was doing nothing now im in a worse situation
Many learning lessons, Regina! I was brought up in a household where we didn’t show our feelings as much, and “hid” things from others so they didn’t worry about it, so I think it was part of my DNA. I’ve released that recently, but still see it in certain family members. So, big lesson for me, among many I’ve learned, released and healed from over the past few months. We are all here to support each other, which is one of the most important lessons all of humanity needs to learn. Use it as a learning and healing lesson and allow fresh energies revitalize and transform you, bringing in new opportunities. Namaste!
This writing was shared with me. And when I read the title, I wasn’t sure about checking it out. I’m so glad that I did. I’m sitting here balling, hot tears because I’m basking in the sea of patience, love, forgiveness and very much in tune with my needs.
Thank you for writing and posting this teaching. I needed this right now.
God used you and my friend to get this to me.
Dearest Patience, I’m incredibly honored to be the vehicle to deliver this message to you. I am grateful my humble words spoke to you and helped you in some way. We all have our challenges, we are all here to love & support each other in any way possible. In Love & Light to your brilliant soul…Namaste!
This is so much me, this article made me cry. It is so true an want to thank u for sharing this, I’m a follower now an I know I’m not the only one. Thank
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts Paula. I’m honored it touched you and you found it when you needed it. The more each of us realize these truths and become aware of them, the more understanding, compassionate and loving we can be to ourselves and each other. I truly appreciate the follow! Love & Light! Namaste!
I’m honored you enjoyed it James! Namaste! In Love & Light ~ Heather
Beautiful insights on change and restoration
Thank you Keyon! I’m honored by your words. Continue to Love All. In Light & Love, Namaste! Heather
I need to stop falling in love with the wrong ppl. I am tired of being alone
Carol, I understand. Please know that many of our relationships are intended to help us learn more about ourselves. I have been married, divorced and had a number of relationships myself, and being alone can be a good thing. Each time I’ve been alone, it’s been a good thing, allowing me to realize why I was choosing the relationships I was, to help me choose differently after healing what needed to be healed. It was the relationships that brought the issues to surface so they could be healed. Continue to believe in you and love yourself, as what, and who, we need will always appear in Divine timing. Namaste!
That’s why I have not had any real relationships in over 20 yesrs. I have come to almost like being alone most of the time. It’s peaceful.
Alone time can be good for us, as can relationships, especially when both parties are willing to grow & learn together, as true love, divine partners. Thank you for reading my blog and I appreciate your comments! Namaste!
Just at the right time. Amen
Hello Nancy! Oh, I love Divine Timing! I am honored & blessed you were directed to read this when it could help you! Namaste, in Light & Love ~ Heather
Thank you so much for this post…God truly blessed me this night….I am going through a rough time with my ex boyfriend who came back to my life recently….He said he was trying to see if he could work things out with me and he was going to change….he hasn’t….he is going thru a lot with his family his daughter and parents….thing is….I am catching all the negative vibes…u has such an ego acting like he has got everything together but he doesnt…but instead of working together to make things easier for eachother he feels privileged and doesn’t help financially and doesn’t help around the apartment….he has not taken me out on a date once..when is enough enough and do u call it quits or they to hang on….it so hard to deal with putting all of myself n not receive anything back in return…how much do u take from someone… just today I told him to make a decision if he wants to be together we both help one another and love one another but if it’s just roommates that he wants…he needs to leave my apartment if he continues to take advantage of me and hurts me emotionally.man I just want someone to love me unconditionally….
Hello Janet! I’m truly honored you found this article and it has helped you. I understand, and have been through my fair share of boyfriends who weren’t available emotionally, spiritually or mentally. There is a country song I love by Miranda Lambert, and the one phrase she sings is like an anthem “I’m not settling for anything less than everything.” Time to ask yourself what you TRULY want. Relationships are give & take, and the give & take isn’t necessarily the same things, but it is considering everything in totality. If you would like to discuss further, I’d be honored to set up an appointment for you for intuitive life coaching mixed with Reiki energy. It has helped transform and awaken me, and well as, many of my clients. May you be blessed with Love. Namaste!
I myself went and are still going through this experience, I lost my soon to be wife of 15 yrs. because I didn’t express myself and kept everything bottled up and didn’t want to talk and more or less pushed her away. I regret every bit of it.
I understand, Danny. We do it for many different reasons, and I think many people don’t express their emotions, which is one of the reasons I wrote this article. Work on healing yourself, as I truly believe when we do, we are given more opportunities, relationships and more which are even better than what we imagined. Have faith & hope, always, all ways. Namaste!
Thank you, Wilma! It is my pleasure to share to help others in any way I can. It’s why I became a Reiki Master, life coach, yoga instructor and more. Have a lovely day! Namaste!
This is so very me..it had just reflected on myself indeed..and apparently,this would help me through..tnx for this post..god bless..
Blessings to you, too! I’m honored it appeared when it could help you. It’s always helpful to know others experience similar situations. We are all learning lessons in this lifetime. Namaste!
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I’m delighted you found it so helpful! Blessings & Namaste!