Everything in your life is the reality you created by your beliefs & experiences.
If you wish to change your reality, change your beliefs. Changing our beliefs involves investigating why we have those beliefs and where they began. Opening yourself up to other beliefs from different people, cultures and countries helps you understand other beliefs to see if that belief resonates with you. Changing your beliefs incorporates questioning the similarities and differences of your beliefs and another’s.
Changing your reality is looking at your experiences in a different way.
If you believe a situation was intended to be harmful, it will be. If you believe that same situation was intended to be helpful, it will be. It truly comes down to what you choose to believe which creates your reality in each situation you encounter. I choose to believe there is an opportunity to learn all the time for growth and wisdom. Lessons are everywhere, delivered in many different ways from many different situations.
For instance, last week there was a number of people outside my apartment making quite a bit of noise. This happened late in the night, and it woke me up. I immediately thought how rude and inconsiderate they were being, and I let it bother me and keep me awake until they stopped. My peace was disrupted. Interestingly, earlier in the night, we also experienced rain, thunder and lightening, which also woke me up. When the weather woke me up, I didn’t think “how rude of Mother Nature to wake me up in the middle of the night.” Instead I thought, “Oh, it’s storming. I love the sounds of rain and thunder.” I allowed myself to go back to sleep with the sounds of the storm. My peace was not disrupted.
Since I believe the storm was soothing sounds, I was able to go back to sleep. With the people, my belief was they were being rude and inconsiderate, as people should be quiet at night. Looking back, I didn’t think Mother Nature was waking me up on purpose. But my belief stemmed from my experience growing up and being told to stay quiet at night. Therefore, I blamed the people that I couldn’t fall back asleep. Was it their fault? Were they really purposely waking me up any more than Mother Nature was? Of course not. They were having fun. Both times I woke up it was due to noise. I labeled the noises as different due to my beliefs and experiences growing up. I was able to remove my focus of staying awake with Mother Nature, to remain at peace for sleeping. I could have chosen to do the same with the human noises, thus changing my belief that these people were keeping me awake, thus changing my experience and reality of that night. I still believe it is best for me to stay quiet at night to be in rhythm with nature and I would hope others feel the same way. But, I do not have control over others, just myself. I can choose not to be affected when other people are not being quiet, which creates a different reality for me. It allows me to keep my peace & quiet in my mind. That is the lesson. I also find it very interesting, helpful & coincidental that both Mother Nature and Human Nature woke me that night.
This lesson can be applied to many situations in life. It is important to ask yourself what you are choosing as your reality based on your beliefs and experiences, especially when something or someone is upsetting you in some fashion. Discovering and understanding the differences and similarities of beliefs can lead you into a new reality. From our views of society to religion to government and beyond, recognizing how our beliefs and experiences have shaped our lives can allow us to consider other beliefs and experiences. Truly learning the why behind our behaviors can bring us wisdom and lead us to a different choice, thus transforming our reality to more love, peace & joy.
May you view life as learning lessons for growth & wisdom.